~The End Of The World Walk~

WINTER WELCOME! 

BEAUTY IN DEATH :)

So I went for a walk today to clear my head and of course had to take my camera with me! All was quiet, cold and a little desolate. So of course with the whole Mayan Apocalypse I got to thinking.....What would the world look like if it had ended??? So I decided to do a picture blog of my wonderment! 

Come on my journey to the end of the world with me............

As I was walking I noticed things that made me think....."Oh my has destruction taken place?"

Maybe a house exploded???

And bits and pieces ended up washed ashore.....

 

Where is the child this shoe belongs too?........

 Would a mother no longer take up her rolling pin and bake cookies for her children?

Would the remaining of us be washed away by the water?

And then the sky's opened up! And I had hope again!

I began to see the beauty of nature I had sought at the beginning of my walk.

I opened my eyes and started to enjoy the journey and not just focus on the destination.

It was then that my mind began to clear and I was feeling more at ease with the day. 

Before I knew it I became lost in the world of winters nature. I was in awe of the beauty around me that seemed to be thriving in winters cold harshness.

 I loved how the water embraces the leafs. 

 The wild Strawberries still show beauty even after their fruit is gone.

Nature is wondrous!

 The cold wind blew this puddle in the night and froze it's ripples so as it stands still in time!

I have a saying "Love follows me" This saying comes from the fact that I see hearts in everyday objects and in nature on my walks.

 However today....even though I saw love all around me in nature, I didn't feel very loved........Until I turned around and saw that love was actually following me!

I turned around about an hour into my walk and there was my youngest son.....Love....Following me!

 I am a VERY lucky mom!

And so I concluded my walk with a wonderful companion and knew that even if the world were to end I would always have lived by enjoying the journey and not just the destination!

Happy Non-Apocalypse! 

~T~

SADNESS

 I'm a Canadian so some may not think this effects me as it would a fellow American.  I call "Bollocks" on that!!! I have a heart AND I'm also a parent AND teacher.  I have worked in the school system and have had my children in the system for over 12 years.  No I am not effected by it as those who are directly involved, but if this didn't effect you or myself then we have officially become desensitized! I personally hope that NEVER happens! 

Anyway I saw this Morgan Freeman article on a friends fb wall and wanted to share it with as many people as I could get to see it, as well as the victims names and ages so we know the names of the families we can pray for, the names of the ones we grieve for and forget the bastard who stole their lives before being a coward and dying himself. 

~T~

 

TURN OFF THE NEWS.......

Morgan Freeman's brilliant take on what happened yesterday :

"You want to know why. This may sound cynical, but here's why.

It's because of the way the media reports it. Flip on the news and watch how we treat the Batman theater shooter and the Oregon mall shooter like celebrities. Dylan Klebold and Eric Harris are household names, but do you know the name of a single *victim* of Columbine? Disturbed
people who would otherwise just off themselves in their basements see the news and want to top it by doing something worse, and going out in a memorable way. Why a grade school? Why children? Because he'll be remembered as a horrible monster, instead of a sad nobody.

CNN's article says that if the body count "holds up", this will rank as the second deadliest shooting behind Virginia Tech, as if statistics somehow make one shooting worse than another. Then they post a video interview of third-graders for all the details of what they saw and heard while the shootings were happening. Fox News has plastered the killer's face on all their reports for hours. Any articles or news stories yet that focus on the victims and ignore the killer's identity? None that I've seen yet. Because they don't sell. So congratulations, sensationalist media, you've just lit the fire for someone to top this and knock off a day care center or a maternity ward next.

You can help by forgetting you ever read this man's name, and remembering the name of at least one victim. You can help by donating to mental health research instead of pointing to gun control as the problem. You can help by turning off the news."

 R.I.P you sweet angles!

The victims  ( part of an article published on cnn u.s)  http://www.cnn.com/2012/12/16/us/connecticut-school-shooting/index.html?hpt=hp_t1

All the victims died from gunshot wounds and were struck multiple times, said H. Wayne Carver II, Connecticut's chief medical examiner. Their deaths were classified as homicides.

"This probably is the worst I have seen or the worst that I know of any of my colleagues having seen," Carver told reporters.

All 20 of the slain children were either 6 or 7 years old.

Among those killed was 6-year-old Emilie Parker. Her father struggled to hold back tears while recalling the life cut far too short.

"As the deep pain begins to settle into our hearts, we find comfort reflecting on the incredible person that Emilie was and how many lives that she was able to touch in her short time here on Earth," Robbie Parker told reporters.

"She loved to use her talents to touch the lives of everyone that she came in contact with," he added. "She always carried around her markers and pencils so she never missed an opportunity to draw a picture or make a card for those around her."

Robbie Parker also offered his condolences to all the families affected.

"This includes the family of the shooter," he said. "I can't imagine how hard this experience must be for you, and I want you to know that our family, and our love and support goes out to you as well."

Six adults were also killed in the school rampage, including principal Dawn Hochsprung, school psychologist Mary Sherlach, first-grade teacher Vicki Soto and substitute teacher Lauren Rousseau.

Surviving relationships with happiness

      SURVIVING RELATIONSHIPS WITH HAPPINESS

I know,  I am one to talk eh? I haven’t survived a relationship yet…YET. It’s not for lack of trying it is more like “tired of trying and not being enough”.  That and I have become tough to love, whole other blog!!! 

Anyway as I was lying in bed…or was it sitting on the potty???? I can’t remember, as those two places seem to be my “Great thinking spots” where my mind works overtime… so in one thinking spot or another I began thinking of my parents and their relationship and why it was so successful. 

“She was genuinely happy” Yes my mom struggled with self-esteem, weight, health, finances, disobedient children (mostly my brother :)) and all the other things life throws at you. However she was happy through it all, and my inner-self sought to know why?  Why was she happy inside and out? With all life threw at her how could she be happy?  The answer struck me right away…(and I remember now what was happening when I was thinking all this)….. I was in the shower shaving my legs (struggling for some normalcy)…. Anyway the answer to why my mom was so happy is because of my dad….. Her man, her safe place and her prince. My dad always strived to make sure my mom was looked after in every area of her life. Physically, mentally, emotionally, financially and every other way a woman needs a man. Yes men we need you as much as you need us, if not more!!!

So let me explain what I mean. My dad always made sure my mom had time for herself, she was “high maintenance” but not in a Jersey Shore kind of way.  She liked nice things and doing things to take care of herself. She enjoyed her bath or showers and the whole processes involved right down to making someone put cream on her back, she loved that time to look after herself. My dad kept us at bay making sure we let her relax and feel revived..... Cause lets face it ladies, none of us feel good being frumpy….EVER!

 Another area my dad looked after my mom was always having her back. Sometimes she was wrong, as  was he was but they never “corrected” each other in public, or around my brother and I. They respected each other immensely and everyone knew it.

My mom was insecure about her weight; she was always curvy and even after having my brother and I she still looked hot, sexy and full. Health issues caused her to gain more weight than she wanted and she was insecure about it. My dad would go out of his way to make her feel sexy, not just with sex but also with words and lots of reassurance. He never wavered on that, never made it feel monotonous, insincere or like it was a hassle for him. He truly loved her and made sure she always knew. During lilac season he’d bring her home an armful everyday without fail, left her love notes if he left for work before her and she would leave them if she left before him. He remembered little things and was always consistent even when she exhausted him. I remember so much love between them because they never hid it from anyone. My dad was quite a catch and women would “throw themselves” at him and flirt, but he ALWAYS held true to my mom and their commitment. He was proud to be her husband and always was.

All the work however that my dad put into the relationship had always paid off, even though that isn’t why he was doing it. But by treating his wife like a Queen and always working and trying everyday to better their relationship, he got it back in return. By ensuring my mom was happy and taken care of he was also a happy man.

So I guess what I am saying is never stop trying to reach genuine happiness with your partner. In a selfish world there is such a lack of selflessness and commitment or drive to keep trying. It saddens me because I have seen such a love that I don’t understand why EVERYONE wouldn’t want to strive to obtain that.  Men listen to your women, they are constantly giving little hints as to what they need weather they realize they are doing it or not. Truly listen!.......... “I’ve put on weight, or lost weight my clothes are so tight/lose” A.K.A she needs a sweet ass pair of jeans and shirt to boost her ego. “Uggg I need a shower and shave, or I want to sit and soak” Draw her a bath and make sure she gets some undisturbed time to unwind and just be a woman. We all have a certain level of the “high maintenance gene”.  For me…” I need a make-over” lol. I got mistaken for a worker @ the value village drop center…I was dropping stuff off. It bugged me the whole way home, and still does apparently. I need a break from frumpy. And yes I can, and will book a hair appointment and maybe get some make- up and a sweet ass pair of jeans cause I am capable. I’m just saying is all…*cough*cough*hint* :p

My friend Taisha had a story on her FB wall today about a married couple, who in short “Lost that lovin feeling” were going to get divorced.  The wife had dedicated 10 years to her husband, home and son and their relationship became stale. However they found a way to fall in love again.  By the time he fully realized it she had passed away from Cancer.

Below is a paragraph from the story……………

“The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

 Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. ♥”

“Behind ever happy woman is a good man, who in turn is a happy man” ~T Original~

~T~

 In memory of Elizabeth Ann Sanderson, A.K.A MOMMY :) 

April 20 '56- June 14 '08

                                              My mommy and daddy on their wedding day.

Fight For it and don't let go!

Fight for the love you have. Respect the one you love and ALWAYS communicate....communication leads to beautiful things!!!! 

The Long Road

THE LONG ROAD!

Yes I am a “bit” stubborn and strong willed! When I make my mind up it’s made up…even if it is the wrong choice, decision, thought, action or intention. I am a heart girl………..meaning it’s bigger than I am or will ever be! I try to live up to my heart daily. Sounds weird I know, but you have to know me to get it. The deepness of my heart is like the black hole that seems to constantly be aching inside me. I want to give and do and change so much that it overwhelms me but it mostly causes great hurt and sadness inside me.  Now to go along with my giant “red” hole...(black doesn’t suit it) comes amazing strength, Compassion and gentleness. All these things have caused me a great deal of hurt as I trust people way to easily and will give anyone the benefit of the doubt. Some would call that “Being Naive” however I am not that at all. I see in people that which most don’t see in themselves and want to draw it out of them. The shity part of that is that I also see the not so good in them. However I have chosen to help and love them anyway. It is my greatest flaw, yet one of my greatest rewards. The point I am making is that this “journey” as I call it has taken me down the long road…one that seems never ending, twisty, rough, smooth, desolate, and crowded. But it is a road that I have found my inner strength, true love, patience, understanding, self-discovery, unbearable pain and fear, alive, enlightened and so many more things. I know my road has not come to my waterfall ending yet, and that there is so much more of it to travel, but I look forward to it now because I’m not alone on this road. I have people in my life although…. very few who have stayed on this journey with me. It is them that I am the MOST proud of and eternally grateful to for everything they are to me. 

I Love you!

~T~

    

Change Your Life Photography: MOMS………The Worlds most incredible hero!

Change Your Life Photography: MOMS………The Worlds most incredible hero!: When I was thinking to post an article for Mother's Day I wanted to do something different. Instead of me talking about Mother's and my ...

MOM"S the worlds most incredible hero

 

            MOM’S the world’s most incredible hero's                          

Mom, Mommy, mother, mama, mum…….What does that one word mean?  Notice I didn’t say “one little word”?!!! It has to be the biggest word I know!! It is also the most profound and meaningful word known to mankind.

For some it’s a negative but for the majority the word MOM is a symbol of all things kind, nurturing, strong, warm, creative, giving…and the list could go on forever!!!

Being a mom is the highest honor and greatest responsibility anyone could have. Sure the president can run the country, the PM can make life-changing decisions, a soldier can fight for his/her country but a mother molds those men and women to be whom they are. Good or bad!

Being a mom is at times a struggle, you want your child to be healthy, polite, well off, safe and responsible….but most of all you want them to be happy!! It’s not an easy task to be a mom. I don’t say job because it isn’t, it’s a right, a duty, and honor! It’s the most heartbreaking yet most rewarding thing a woman could do! Often times our kids will take things out on us and direct all anger our way…It’s hurtful yes, but it’s also their way of saying “I’m safe with you and you will love me even if I am being a jerk to you” You see our children need to know that mom will still love them even when they act unlovable. But they also need us to teach them when they are wrong. We do however want the next PM/President? Soldier/teacher/etc, to be an honorable person who can be counted on, trusted, and know what is right and what is wrong.

When a child grows up they will then not only still be our child but our friend. I had the privilege of become quite close to my mommy as an adult. My mommy passed suddenly at age 51, 4 years ago and the emptiness I have in my heart will never go away, it won’t ever heal because I don’t want it too! I want to always feel the strong pain of needing my mommy. I hope my kids will always love and remember me with such passion when my time comes.

Some of us didn’t have the privilege of growing up with a mother for one reason or another, so I plead to women out there who know someone without a mother to reach out…to “adopt” that person, be it child, teenager, or adult. Give what you have been given; be a mother in one way or another, you may never know what that could mean to someone, or how that someone could enrich your life as well!

There are also single mothers out there, regardless of how they got there show compassion, support and understanding. They deal with enough judgment and struggle that just a simple gesture would mean the world to them and give them a boost of power to carry on the already hard task of raising children. Who are we to judge??!!

Finally I want to reach out to children (even children who are mothers as well) Honor your mom, even if she had a hard time raising you, or she seemed “unfair, distant, unavailable” there are so many things sanding in the way of allowing moms to be moms now a days that we need to just look past hurts, misunderstandings and such to find a way t move forward to healing the relationship. Regret is a hard thing to come to terms with when you lose a mother, be it death, distance, or loss of relationship.

I challenge you this mother’s day…Men, Woman, Boys and Girls…Thank your mom and open the doors to communication, understanding, compassion and acceptance but mostly to love! And not just Mother’s day…every day!!!

~T~